If you’re less interested in fitting in and more interested in living in alignment with who you actually are now, this one’s for you.
Today I’m joined by Inessa Love, co-founder of Sassy Silver Surfers, a movement born from a quiet refusal to shrink.
Inessa didn’t take up surfing to prove anything.
She took it up because something in her said now.
Not louder. Not faster. Just truer.
This conversation isn’t about conquering waves or chasing youth. It’s about the rebellion that comes with age, the kind that doesn’t shout, doesn’t perform, and doesn’t explain itself.
We talk about changing your mind without apology, navigating spaces that weren’t built for you, and why midlife isn’t the end of becoming, it’s where discernment finally takes the lead.
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Show Note:
Introductions and Surfing Journeys @ 0:00
Jennifer introduces Inessa, co-founder of Sassy Silver Surfers, a community of midlife women who have taken up surfing. They discuss how they both started surfing later in life and the journey of overcoming fears and redefining their goals.
Redefining Success and Embracing Change @ 3:53
Inessa shares how she initially tried to progress to bigger waves, but then realized she didn’t need to perform or push herself beyond her comfort zone. She emphasizes the importance of defining success on your own terms and being open to changing your goals as your needs and interests evolve.
Navigating the Male-Dominated Surf Culture @ 12:17
Jennifer and Inessa discuss the challenges of being women in a traditionally male-dominated sport, and how they’ve learned to navigate the lineup and choose their battles. They emphasize the importance of finding supportive communities and not letting the negativity of others hold them back.
The Power of Role Models and Community @ 40:14
Inessa highlights the value of seeking out role models, both online and in real life, to inspire and empower midlife women. She also emphasizes the importance of building a supportive community, as it can be a powerful antidote to the cultural messages that tell women to stay small and quiet as they age.
Embracing Authenticity and Not Fitting In @ 43:07
In a reflective moment, Inessa shares that a key lesson for her has been to embrace not fitting in, and to focus on being true to herself rather than trying to conform to societal expectations. She encourages others to do the same, and to not let the pressure to fit in hold them back from pursuing their passions.