In this episode, Jen discusses libido — and no, it’s not just about sex. She explores how libido is really about feeling alive, connected, and vibrant in your body. When it fades, it’s not because you’ve lost your spark or you’re getting old — it’s usually your body saying, “I don’t feel safe right now.” Jen unpacks the deeper connection between libido and your nervous system, and how reclaiming that spark starts with creating safety and reconnection within yourself.

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Let’s talk about libido.
And no — this isn’t just about sex.

Libido is about how alive you feel in your body — how switched-on, vibrant, and connected you are to yourself. When it suddenly drops off the radar, it’s not because you’ve “lost your spark” or you’re “getting old.” It’s your body whispering — or shouting — “I don’t feel safe right now.”

And when your nervous system is overloaded, the first thing to shut down is libido. It’s your body’s way of conserving energy for survival — not pleasure.

That’s why when women come to me feeling flat, foggy, and like they’re going through the motions, one of my first questions is:
“How’s your adrenal health?”

Your Body Isn’t Broken — It’s Protecting You

When your adrenals are depleted, they rob your sex hormones to keep you upright and functioning. You might want to want sex or pleasure… but your body has other priorities. Safety comes first.

Too often, we reach for quick fixes — a pill, a supplement, something to mask the symptoms: low libido, fatigue, brain fog. But if we don’t address the root cause — chronic stress and a dysregulated nervous system — we stay stuck.

Your libido isn’t broken.
It’s on pause.
And your body is simply saying:
“Let me catch up. Help me feel safe again.”

The BAM Approach: Simple, Grounded, Sustainable

This is where real Bare Arse Minimum (BAM) wellness work kicks in.
Not rigid routines. Not adding more to your to-do list.
Just simple, supportive actions to reconnect to your body — and your pleasure.

• Hydration matters. Water isn’t just for survival — it can feel sensual when you’re present with it. The more regulated your nervous system, the more you become responsive to touch, connection, and pleasure.

• Adaptogens matter. Stress and burnout shut down libido. Adaptogens help your body adapt to stress, stabilise hormones, and restore balance so vitality can return.

Adaptogens That Reawaken You

Here are my libido-loving favourites:

• Ashwagandha – Helps balance cortisol and improve sexual function

• Rhodiola – Boosts stamina and uplifts mood

• Schisandra – Supports liver detox and hormone balance

• Eleuthero (Siberian Ginseng) – Enhances energy and resilience

Together, these herbs help calm your system, nourish your adrenals, and make room for pleasure, connection, and confidence to come back online — naturally.

Want the blend I use daily? Message me for the link to my adrenal tonic.

Aromatherapy That Whispers “You’re Safe”

Essential oils aren’t a magic fix — but they are a gentle nudge to your nervous system that it’s okay to soften and feel good again.

• My Seduce Blend: Ylang Ylang, Sandalwood, Patchouli, and Tangerine — to soothe frazzled nerves and reawaken your sensual self.

• My Love It Blend: Rose Absolute, Rosewood, and Rose Geranium — to balance the heart chakra and help you feel safe and loved.

Use them in a diffuser, apply them to your skin, or take a pause in your day for a breathwork moment. Tiny shifts = big magic.

You Don’t Need Fixing

The first step isn’t “trying harder.”
It’s not about fixing yourself.

It’s about loving yourself — as you are. Right now.

Because sexy isn’t an age — it’s an energy.
And when you come home to your body with softness, safety, and self-love, that energy flows again… naturally, beautifully, powerfully.