Love is what we are born with and hate is what we are taught. Hate comes from fear. In this episode, Jen explores how love and hate impact our worlds and share some of the techniques she uses to bring more love into her life.
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SHOWNOTES
“Love is a powerful emotion. It is positive, and fills the heart and body with a feeling of wellbeing; of being able to conquer the world.” Sathya Saran
Author of Return To Love, Marianne Williamson says
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn.
The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts.
Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth.
Think about that for a moment.”
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn.
Think about a small child, absolutely fearless.”
A study published in the Frontiers in Psychology used an experimental paradigm to study the relationship between romantic love and hate.
The results supported the idea that “the deeper the love, the deeper the hate”
Hate stems from fear.
As a naturopath we say that anger stems from our expectations not being met.
The following are some practices that I do help me live from love not fear and hate.
- My wife Alice and I start the day with a verse. It is the very first thing we do as we wake and helps us start the day with love.
Waking up I smile.
Twenty four brand new hours lie before me
and I vow to be present to every moment,
and look with eyes of compassion upon all beings
Thich Nhat Hanh - Get that everyone is doing their best – The Four Agreements book
- Practice radical forgiveness – David Wood taught me this and The Four Agreements gave me a system.
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
DON’T TAE ANYTHING PERSONALLY Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are tired as opposed to well-rested. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. - Open your heart – Alphabet of the heart – Dr James Daly
THE ALPHABET OF THE HEART
C for Compassion.
Open your heart for yourself and others.
D for Dignity.
Recognize the dignity of every human being.
E for Equanimity.
While acknowledging the ups and downs, try to find an even keel.
F for Forgiveness.
Seek forgiveness from those you have failed and those who have failed you.
G for Gratitude.
Keep in the front of your mind gratitude for all that you have.
H for Humility.
Remember that you are no better and no worse than others you encounter.
I for Integrity.
Value honesty and integrity and use it to guide your actions.
J for Justice.
Acknowledge your obligations in context of social justice.
K for Kindness.
Be kind to yourself and to others.
L for Love.
Let your heart be open to love from within yourself and from others.
Books I recommend
Healthy Life Hacks
The Healthy Life Hacks I want to share with you today are:
- Think of somewhere in your life where you are still ‘drinking the poison’. Identify why these trigger you so much.
- Take action to ‘stop drinking the poison’ – get therapy, read the books do what you need to do.
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