When life doesn’t operate on your timeline, do you get angry and annoyed? Want patience – NOW? In this episode, Jen shares how having patience isn’t about being passive; it’s about having power. Discover five ways you can cultivate patience and learn to appreciate going with the flow of life.
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SHOWNOTES
“I need patience, and I need it now!” For years I thought being patient was that I had to “grin and bear it,”
Patience doesn’t mean being passive or resigning. It’s an emotionally freeing practise of waiting, watching, and knowing when to act. It’s a power move.
I have been a little ADHD in the past. I’m that go fast go hard kind of chick, and I don’t have a good history of being patient. Has that helped me? NO!
I’m someone who likes to maximise every minute of the day. In some areas, I’m really patient. In other areas, I’m very much a work in progress. I’m still learning the art of patience.
Remember, the world won’t end if it doesn’t happen right now.
If something isn’t working on your timeline, the world won’t end. Being patient is about dealing with delays and what is going on without becoming annoyed or anxious. When we hand over our peace, that doesn’t help anyone.
Patience is that wonderful quality of waiting calmly without complaining and remembering to breathe, not suppressing how you’re feeling.
I don’t do anxious. I’m not an anxious person. But I have been more frustrated in the past when things haven’t worked to my timeline.
Our lack of patience stems from something not going the way we wanted. This causes an unmet expectation, which causes frustration. This frustration can then cause us to be angry or annoyed.
If you’re an aromatherapy person, Ylang Ylang is an excellent essential oil that helps us not get so wound up. It helps us to feel that our expectations are our expectations.
Five hacks to cultivate patience
- Remember your expectations are yours – The Buddha said that not getting our way is a cause of suffering and dissatisfaction in our lives
- Breathe and practice mindfulness – Thich Nhat Hanh says patience is one of the marks of true love. Breathe and be present. When we’re present, we’re mindful.
- Reframe what’s happening – The world won’t end if everything isn’t on your timeline. Reframe what is happening. Stop, breathe and take action and allow things to flow.
- Learn to listen and not interrupt – Choose to slow down and listen attentively.
- Reduce your stress – Use adaptogen herbs. It will take off the stress edge.
BONUS TIP: What we think about we bring about. Make something like, ‘I’m patient and happy to go with the flow of life’ a daily affirmation. Keep feeding your brain what you want. Stop talking about what you don’t want and start telling yourself what you do want.
Helpful Links
- Track down any books by Thich Nhat Hanh
- The herbs I regularly use:
Healthy Life Hacks
The Healthy Life Hack I want to share with you today is:
- Practice for the next hour or day, week, or month to be mindful and be patient
- Use some of the hacks to cultivate patience – they work!

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