One key ingredient to looking younger is a great sex life. In this episode, Jen gets real and asks the crucial question, “Do you want a luscious life that has passion, excitement and sex?” As Jen explains, it often comes down to the language we use around our relationships.

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SHOWNOTES

Hi, I would love you to meet my girlfriend. I mean, partner. I mean lover?

Who are they, and who am I? It’s hard to know how to introduce your relationship. 

This year I have dated a wonderful woman and since become engaged. Early on, I wondered, how do I introduce her? So, we discussed who we were for each other. 

Alice was my girlfriend at that stage, we were committed to being partners, and she was absolutely my lover. Talking about it, we were like, why shouldn’t 60-year-old women have a lover instead of a girlfriend?

What is the difference? Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. Words hold energy. 

Since stepping into my Crone in the last ten years, I am even more conscious of my language and what I bring to the world.  

I want a lover. A passionate woman with who I am in love and sexually active with. I want and have great sex with my lover. Now, don’t squirm. We need to state what we want.

Relationships can run stale as complacency sneaks in. A friend of mine who has been in a relationship for more than ten years said that she has had sex the same way this whole time. Another friend of mine has been in a relationship for over a year, and they are having the same conversation about lovers or partners.

In a long-term study published in book form as the Secrets of the Superyoung, David Weeks, MD, head of old age psychology  at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland, found that “the key ingredients for looking younger are staying active… and maintaining a good sex life.” 

A study of 3,500 people, ages 30 to 101, found that “sex helps you look between four and seven years younger,” measured by impartial ratings of the subjects’ photos. 

So why shouldn’t I want a lover over a “girlfriend”? I’m all about ageing youthfully. So, why don’t we say what we want upfront and out loud?

We react or respond to what we hear and are presented with each day. We may fear being judged; I know I have in the past. But the truth is, we get judged anyway.

So as a 60-year-old woman, why shouldn’t I introduce my partner/girlfriend as my lover? It’s my vibe that I bring to the word and how I share it that makes it “acceptable” or not. 

So, I ask you, what do you want? Do you want a luscious life that contains passion, excitement, and sex, while ageing your body slower? Or not?

There is no right or wrong. For me, I want a lover, great sex, and a committed juicy relationship.

Healthy Life Hacks

The Healthy Life Hacks I want to share with you today are:

1. If your relationship is a bit flat and you have lost connection with the lover you enjoyed at the start, maybe check out something like Sex, Love and Goop on Netflix or seek the help of a professional.
2. Try calling your partner your lover, even if just to them. Start to manifest what you want in life.

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