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The things that are around us the most are what influences us the most. In this episode, Jen explains the power of proximity and how we need to move the bad (an energy-sucking activity, food we keep craving or a toxic relationship) away from us and the good towards us. If you’ve been struggling with breaking a habit or dependency, then this episode is for you!

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SHOWNOTES

Don’t buy it in the first place! That’s what I said to a mum who came into my clinic with little Johnny, who was 7-8 year’s old. She said, “Jen, you have to help me; you’re my last resort. Please tell me what to do; all he wants to eat all day every day is sausage rolls.”

I sat there and looked at her and the little guy and said, “I’ve got a solution for you. Stop buying sausage rolls!” It’s pretty simple. Now I know that get that kids have preferences for things and that there are reasons for different cravings – but we’re not going there today (you can listen to Episode #16 on cravings for more on that). 

Today, I want to talk about proximity – what it is and how it is ruling our lives.

I did one of Tony Robbins workshops a year ago, and he gave such a simple example of proximity that I wanted to share it with you because that’s what I was saying to the mother – get it out of his proximity. 

So, here it is, what is around us the most, influences us the most. That goes for the stuff we want – and don’t want – in our lives. I love surfing. I live near the beach to surf, watch surfing videos, and have surfing stuff around me – I surround myself with it because I want more of it in my life.

If you love chocolate or savoury things like chippies and you know your habit is to go for them in the afternoon – if they’re not in your proximity (in the house), it’s less likely that you are going to consume them. It is the same if someone doesn’t feed your energy – a friend, relative, ex-partner, whoever it is – you want to get them out of your proximity. It could be as simple as unfollowing them on social media.

I’m just as human as you are. I love going to the movies, but I have to eat beforehand, so I’m not tempted by the smell of the popcorn.

Proximity is what gets us every time. The mother knew sausage rolls weren’t good for the kid – so they need to go out of proximity. Is the kid going to chuck a performance for a while? 100%! It’s in his habit to do it. But it needs to be done. If you don’t want them to eat the crap food, don’t buy it and set a good example yourself.

If you’re going grocery shopping, eat beforehand; otherwise, you will buy more crap food when you go.

So, I wanted this to be a reminder that what is around you is either giving you energy or sucking the life out of you. If it’s draining you – remove yourself from it until you are strong enough to deal with it. If it’s energy giving – surround yourself with more of it.

Healthy Life Hacks

So, the healthy life hacks I want to leave you with today are: 

  1. Determine what is in your proximity that you need to remove 
  2. Determine what you want in your proximity and bring it closer

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