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Are you finding yourself losing it over the tiniest things? In this episode, Jen delves into anger and frustration and what is sitting behind these big emotions – unmet expectations. You will learn why the typical reaction of forcing your anger down and beating yourself up will only lead to more anger. She’ll share how you can switch from reacting to responding and why you need to be kinder to yourself, particularly in these stressful times.

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SHOWNOTES

Are you finding yourself losing it over the tiniest things? The kids come home and leave their clothes everywhere, and you lose it – sound familiar? 

When we are in survival mode, we are stand ready for a fight. We reach a point where our systems are full, and we eventually flow over, and the anger comes out.

What I know for sure is that it’s not the thing that tips us over in that moment. What sits behind these outbursts usually are the build-up of many little things – a series of unmet expectations. Then eventually, one thing makes you boil over.

The trick of dealing with this is that we need to realise we can’t control our tempers or disappointments and frustrations with force. You can’t force your anger down. Beating yourself up and getting frustrated with yourself will only feed your anger.

Imagine it this way. You have a bowl that you want to sink. But every time you try to push it underwater, but it keeps popping back up. The way to sink it is to fill it with water gently, and it will settle to the bottom. Forcing your anger down will have the same result.

How to ease your anger

You need to treat yourself in the same way you would the bowl. Deal with yourself kindly by leaning into your emotions, allowing yourself to feel them and then letting them settle. How do you do this?

  • Sit.
  • Breathe.
  • Ask for help; ask yourself who can I reach out too.
  • Use gentleness and compassion.
  • Ask yourself what’s really going on here.
  • Frustration and overwhelm only come when we are not in action.
  • “Be in touch with your feminine side.” (check out Episode 31 for more information on this).
  • Check your magnesium levels (check out Episode 7 on managing your adrenal stress).
  • Use aromatherapy essential oils to support you:
    • My Chill Out blend with Orange, Lime, Ylang Ylang
    • My Sanity Saver blend which is the perfect workplace adrenal blend of Vetiver, Patchouli, Ylang Ylang, Geranium and Australian Sandalwood
    • Ylang Ylang – invokes feelings of peace and tranquillity, reuniting us with our emotional, caring, nurturing, intuitive side. Balancing the left and right brain, Ylang Ylang is the “warm fuzzy” nurturing essential oil that softens us and relieves life’s frustrations. 

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Healthy Life Hacks

So, the healthy life hacks I want to leave you with today are: 

  1. Check in. How are you really doing?
  2. Come from prevention, do you need magnesium or some essential oils like Ylang Ylang for prevention
  3. Give yourself a break, remember getting frustrated with yourself feeds it

Did you enjoy the podcast today? Please let me know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. Every month I draw one lucky reviewer to have a free one-hour consultation with me. Also, remember to subscribe wherever you’re tuning in from so that you always catch the next episode.

Are you looking for more great resources? Get a free copy of my Feed Your Body ebook here and be sure to explore my blog while you are there.